Martin Seligman is one of the gurus of the positive psychology movement and he has spent years studying the science of wellbeing.
He has uncovered the secrets to living a great life in a sustainable and rewarding manner.
Backstory: I first began processing the idea of dating myself as I was going through a major, major breakup last year. I was in hell because I knew in my deepest deep that I was just going to have to be me. Without much of a choice, and in a last ditch effort to pull myself up from the pile of potato chip bags and Ray Lamontagne CD’s, I took myself on a date.
By recording your emotional positivity each day you can track your progress and observe any peaks and troughs.
I had been dating this guy for a steady period of time when he decided to call it quits.
I was devastated and hurt until I caught myself throwing an endless pity party and didn’t like it.
On top of that, they found the similarity was established at the beginning of a relationship, as the study included people who’d known each other for years as well as those who’d only known each other for a short amount of time.“We found that people in relationships are similar to one another in all kinds of ways: attitudes and values, personality traits, behaviours like exercise,” says co-lead author Angela Bahns, an assistant professor of psychology at Wellesley College in Massachusetts.
The big take-away, Bahns says, is that you shouldn’t expect to change your partner.